Dear Bethenny…

Dear Bethenny,

I would like to thank you for taking the opportunity for pushing women back, particularly black women, at least 30 years. I thought we were past the age of needing to sleep our way to the top, or at least having to give a little Lewinsky every now and then (sorry Monica). Darn it…those dry cleaning bills are going to rise again as women will need to remove the evidence of those infamous stains. In the same week that we nationally fight to close the gender wage gap, we discover that you still believe the key to success is through a man. How do you expect women to get equal pay by laying on our backs?

You were given this amazingly empowering opportunity to be the keynote speaker at Project Entrepeneur, a women’s entrepreneurial summit. How could you tell black women to hire white men to represent their businesses? Do you realize how racist and sexist that is? One of the attendees, Mary Pryor, tried to call your attention to your faux pas, but she was silenced.

Thankfully, she and other attendees did not remain silent. And I will not either. As a black woman and an entrepreneur, I stopped having other people representing me the day I stopped working in corporate America. The face of my business is me, with my caramel skin, natural hair, and thick thighs. If per chance, you cannot guesstimate that I am a not a minority by my name, then I also have my picture on my website. I have never slept my way to the top, and I’m sure enough not going to start be somebody’s Sally Hemmings to get a contract. I have my God-given talent, creativity, and intelligence for that. And what I lack, networking will fill in.

For many years, women, whether they consider themselves feminists or not, have been cracking those glass ceilings, and a select few have been fortunate enough to break them. Yet, with your one incredulous appearance last weekend, you have filled those cracks with Gorilla Glue and superglued the broken pieces back together. I have always been interested in time travel, but this is not what I was thinking. Next time, Bethenny, do us all a favor. Stay on Real Housewives where your lines are scripted, and you can feel free to lay up with whomever you please. Just stop messing with the lives of self-made women like me.

Smooches,

Aronya

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