Take Some Time for You

“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”—Audre Lorde

Even the greatest among us must remember to take some time for relaxation, a necessary component of self-care. Stepping back and taking a breath does not show weakness; rather, it shows your intelligence  and wisdom to let another take the reigns. Furthermore, it shows your strength by allowing someone else to have temporary leadership. This holiday weekend sit back and relax. Let someone else take charge. And, most importantly, take care of you.

Happy Mother’s Day

Whether you are a mother biologically, matrimonially, or inspirationally, I pray that you are pouring into a child instead of taking out. I may only have one biological mother, but I was blessed to be given a second mother early in life. In addition, I had my grandmothers, aunts, godmothers, cousins, and many other great women who molded me into the lady who I became today. Whether near or far, I know it was their actions and prayers that got me to this point in life. The greatest legacy that we can leave is by positively inspiring and impacting the next generation. I pray that we all are helping our legacies. 

La Cristina Dice: The Mother/Daughter Tree

I imagine that my mom, my daughter and I are all part of a tree. My mom is the roots, sturdy and strong, keeping us grounded. She is for the most part unseen, but the rest of the tree wouldn’t exist without her. 

Please read this beautiful post from La Cristina Dice about the connection between mothers and daughters. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. 
http://lacristinadice.blogspot.com/2017/02/the-motherdaughter-tree.html?m=1

Keep Fighting #RESISTANCE

I saw this on Facebook, and I needed to share here. We will not lose. Please share.  

Hey activist friends: despite the headlines, you are making a difference. In the words of #Banksy: “If you get tired, learn to rest, not to quit.”For everyone who DID something, small or big, your efforts have been successful. Because of you:

1. Federal hiring freeze is reversed for VA (#VeteranAffairs).

2. Court ordered partial stay of the immigration ban for those with valid visas.

3. #Greencard holders can get back in country.

4. #Uber pledges $3M and immigration lawyers for its drivers after #DeleteUber trends on Twitter.

5. #Obamacare (Affordable Care Act) enrollment ads are still going to air. #ACA

6. The #ACLU raised 24M over the weekend (normally 3-4Mil/year).

7. HHS, EPA, #USDA gag order lifted.

8. #EPA climate data no longer scrubbed from website.

9. More people of different career/religious/economic/race backgrounds are considering running for political office than ever before.

10. MOST importantly, since we live in a participatory democracy, the people are engaged.

While more is needed, sometimes you have to celebrate your wins. Stay vigilant, but also take self care seriously. Activist burnout is a thing, as is protest fatigue. Marathon, don’t sprint. #RESIST

A Journey of 50,000 Words #NaNoWriMo

For the month of November, you may see less of your friends as they participate in the annual event known as NaNoWriMo. Writers—veterans and newbies—vow to spend the month of November writing a book of 50,000 words. I’ve thought about participating before, but 50,000 words seemed so overwhelming. These past two years, however, have proven to me that nothing is overwhelming when you break it down into smaller bites. I have started my own business, began my blog, and I have even been speaking around the country about becoming socially active (a huge fear). By no means am I an expert, but with each opportunity, I become a little better. Each opportunity, I am building upon my dream. Now, I am beginning to fulfill another dream—writing books. If you are hesitant in moving forward with your dream or fulfilling your purpose, remember this famous Chinese proverb.

“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”—Lao-tzu

I decided to update Lao-tzu’s quote for NaNoWriMo.

“A journey of 50,000 words begins with a single character.”—Her Own Beat

Enjoy the journey!

 

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What Is Your Purpose?


I want to inspire people. I want someone to look at me and say, “Because of you, I didn’t give up.”

Keep Your Peace

Our country is in a contentious time—socially, economically, and politically. This never-ending election season seems to be the nastiest cycle of all time. Hopefully, this is a fluke and not the new norm. This spirit of “making America great again” and “being with her” has added to the divisiveness within our country. I wonder how long it will take our country to heal. You have to look no further than social media to see the hate that is still present in the land of the free and the home of the brave.

So what should we do to protect ourselves? How do we keep our sanity? Let’s take the Dalai Lama’s advice, “Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.” No matter how much the trolls poke and prod with their slanderous statements and callous comments, just walk away. Stop following them. Block them. Don’t feed into their ignorance by responding. You may even need a social media vacation. Do what works for you. Just remember that your peace of mind is greater than any person in this world.

Real Love Reigns #ForeverDuncan

In a world where we see so many images of terror, hate, evil, and violence, it is a breath of fresh air to see real love. The Internet was broken this weekend by #ForeverDuncan. When Sherrell Woodward woke up on Saturday morning, her boyfriend, Alfred Duncan, had a date day all planned for her. The only rule was that she could not say no. By noon, she was engaged, and by 6:00 pm, she was Mrs. Sherrell Woodward. Her engagement and surprise wedding may not be for everyone, but it was for them. They had pre-marital counseling classes; they had their parents’ blessings; they discussed marriage. They were on the path to marriage. Although Sherrell may not have known that she was planning her wedding, I am almost certain that Alfred was taking notes about her likes, wants, and desires, and most likely it was confirmed by her family and friends who were also involved. Sherrell’s pure emotion shows that this was the perfect wedding for them and divinely written for them. It was their fate. While this may not be for you, do not speak against it, talk down upon it, or question it. Don’t halt your blessing and what is ordered just for you.

Here is the moment when Sherrell Duncan realizes she is arriving at her wedding.

 

Here is a beautiful montage of the day.

A Prayer of Comfort and Hope–Dr. Alyn E. Waller

It seems that every week we, as a community, are grieving another life lost. I continually say, “I am more than a hashtag.” Yet, it seems that we may be one mile, one block, one step, one breath from becoming the next hashtag. Good people from both sides have lost their lives, and we have shed too many tears to count. Community activists. Church members. Police officers. Leaders. Students. Mothers. Fathers. Daughters. Sons. Christians. Muslims. Black. Brown. Everyone. It seems no one is safe.

As a Christian, I have faith, but sometimes I find myself asking, Lord, help me with my unbelief. Dr. Waller’s prayer provides that answer.

And so, yes, we echo, even with tears in our eyes, pain in our hearts. We echo the words of the great hymn of antiquity, It Is Well with Our Soul. It is well knowing that God has a way of turning it around. It as well knowing the God has a way of using this to galvanize our efforts so that one day we shall stand and truly safe.

We cannot give up. We cannot give in. Let us fight the good fight knowing that one day we will be able to stand together safely united. Share this video as a reminder that it will be well. #LoveWillWin

Maya Angelou Quote

Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.—Maya Angelou

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