Take Some Time for You

“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”—Audre Lorde

Even the greatest among us must remember to take some time for relaxation, a necessary component of self-care. Stepping back and taking a breath does not show weakness; rather, it shows your intelligence  and wisdom to let another take the reigns. Furthermore, it shows your strength by allowing someone else to have temporary leadership. This holiday weekend sit back and relax. Let someone else take charge. And, most importantly, take care of you.

La Cristina Dice: The Mother/Daughter Tree

I imagine that my mom, my daughter and I are all part of a tree. My mom is the roots, sturdy and strong, keeping us grounded. She is for the most part unseen, but the rest of the tree wouldn’t exist without her. 

Please read this beautiful post from La Cristina Dice about the connection between mothers and daughters. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. 
http://lacristinadice.blogspot.com/2017/02/the-motherdaughter-tree.html?m=1

A Journey of 50,000 Words #NaNoWriMo

For the month of November, you may see less of your friends as they participate in the annual event known as NaNoWriMo. Writers—veterans and newbies—vow to spend the month of November writing a book of 50,000 words. I’ve thought about participating before, but 50,000 words seemed so overwhelming. These past two years, however, have proven to me that nothing is overwhelming when you break it down into smaller bites. I have started my own business, began my blog, and I have even been speaking around the country about becoming socially active (a huge fear). By no means am I an expert, but with each opportunity, I become a little better. Each opportunity, I am building upon my dream. Now, I am beginning to fulfill another dream—writing books. If you are hesitant in moving forward with your dream or fulfilling your purpose, remember this famous Chinese proverb.

“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”—Lao-tzu

I decided to update Lao-tzu’s quote for NaNoWriMo.

“A journey of 50,000 words begins with a single character.”—Her Own Beat

Enjoy the journey!

 

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What Is Your Purpose?


I want to inspire people. I want someone to look at me and say, “Because of you, I didn’t give up.”

A Prayer of Comfort and Hope–Dr. Alyn E. Waller

It seems that every week we, as a community, are grieving another life lost. I continually say, “I am more than a hashtag.” Yet, it seems that we may be one mile, one block, one step, one breath from becoming the next hashtag. Good people from both sides have lost their lives, and we have shed too many tears to count. Community activists. Church members. Police officers. Leaders. Students. Mothers. Fathers. Daughters. Sons. Christians. Muslims. Black. Brown. Everyone. It seems no one is safe.

As a Christian, I have faith, but sometimes I find myself asking, Lord, help me with my unbelief. Dr. Waller’s prayer provides that answer.

And so, yes, we echo, even with tears in our eyes, pain in our hearts. We echo the words of the great hymn of antiquity, It Is Well with Our Soul. It is well knowing that God has a way of turning it around. It as well knowing the God has a way of using this to galvanize our efforts so that one day we shall stand and truly safe.

We cannot give up. We cannot give in. Let us fight the good fight knowing that one day we will be able to stand together safely united. Share this video as a reminder that it will be well. #LoveWillWin

Maya Angelou Quote

Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.—Maya Angelou

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Jesse Williams: 2016 BET Humanitarian Award Speech

“Peace peace. Thank you, Debra. Thank you, BET. Thank you Nate Parker, Harry and Debbie Allen for participating in that (video).

Before we get into it, I just want to say I brought my parents out tonight. I just want to thank them for being here, for teaching me to focus on comprehension over career, and that they make sure I learn what the schools were afraid to teach us. And also thank my amazing wife for changing my life.

Now, this award—this is not for me. This is for the real organizers all over the country—the activists, the civil rights attorneys, the struggling parents, the families, the teachers, the students that are realizing that a system built to divide and impoverish and destroy us cannot stand if we do.

It’s kind of basic mathematics—the more we learn about who we are and how we got here, the more we will mobilize.

Now, this is also in particular for the black women in particular who have spent their lifetimes dedicated to nurturing everyone before themselves. We can and will do better for you.

Now, what we’ve been doing is looking at the data and we know that police somehow manage to de-escalate, disarm and not kill white people every day. So what’s going to happen is we are going to have equal rights and justice in our own country or we will restructure their function and ours.

Now…I got more y’all—yesterday would have been young Tamir Rice’s 14th birthday so I don’t want to hear any more about how far we’ve come when paid public servants can pull a drive-by on 12-year-old playing alone in the park in broad daylight, killing him on television and then going home to make a sandwich. Tell Rekia Boyd how it’s so much better than it is to live in 2012 than it is to live in 1612 or 1712. Tell that to Eric Garner. Tell that to Sandra Bland. Tell that to Dorian Hunt.

Now the thing is, though, all of us in here getting money—that alone isn’t gonna stop this. Alright, now dedicating our lives, dedicating our lives to getting money just to give it right back for someone’s brand on our body when we spent centuries praying with brands on our bodies, and now we pray to get paid for brands on our bodies.

There has been no war that we have not fought and died on the front lines of. There has been no job we haven’t done. There is no tax they haven’t levied against us—and we’ve paid all of them. But freedom is somehow always conditional here. “You’re free,” they keep telling us. But she would have been alive if she hadn’t acted so…free.

Now, freedom is always coming in the hereafter, but you know what, though, the hereafter is a hustle. We want it now.

And let’s get a couple things straight, just a little side note—the burden of the brutalized is not to comfort the bystander. That’s not our job, alright—stop with all that. If you have a critique for the resistance, for our resistance, then you better have an established record of critique of our oppression. If you have no interest, if you have no interest in equal rights for black people then do not make suggestions to those who do. Sit down.

We’ve been floating this country on credit for centuries, yo, and we’re done watching and waiting while this invention called whiteness uses and abuses us, burying black people out of sight and out of mind while extracting our culture, our dollars, our entertainment like oil—black gold, ghettoizing and demeaning our creations then stealing them, gentrifying our genius and then trying us on like costumes before discarding our bodies like rinds of strange fruit. The thing is though…the thing is that just because we’re magic doesn’t mean we’re not real.

Thank you.”

Jesse Williams, 2016 BET Humanitarian Award Speech

What’s Your Story? #Roots

“The truth can never be known. It can only be told in a story.”—Alex Haley, Roots

Break Those Chains

“They can put the chains on your body. Never let them put the chains on your mind.”—Kunta Kinte

I have now seen two nights of Roots, and I have to say that I have been in awe of the powerful quotes that have been spoken. Although these events have taken place more than 200 years ago, these words still hold true today. Don’t listen to the naysayers; don’t listen to the Doggs. Break those chains and watch tonight. 


 

Know Your Worth

When you know your real name, nothing can stop you—not family, friends, haters, trials, or tribulations. Know your worth and then live! #Roots #KuntasKin